Fathers leave an indelible mark in their children’s lives.

A FATHER plays a vital role in the family. He is more than just the breadwinner. He is the nurturer who has significant influence on his children’s growth and development. A hands-on father is also a productive worker who sets a positive example for his family.

When a father interacts with his child, he builds on the child’s brainpower. When he holds up his child, he would tickle her or swing her around. He would show her many things that are in the environment.

His child develops a sense of awareness from playing with Dad. She learns to anticipate his movements and her learning is reinforced when she gets it right.

Physical and eye contact are two important elements in the father’s interactions with his children. They should be natural, comfortable and not showy or overdone. A child whose parents use eye and physical contact will be comfortable with herself and other people.

It is found that parents with high self-esteem tend to show more love and acceptance of their children. When children are encouraged rather than criticised or punished, they will be more successful in their learning.

Children will be more committed to staying in school and show greater determination to succeed when they have their father’s unceasing support. A father enhances his children’s cognitive development and school achievements.

A mother lamented that her 16-year-old son is defiant and has problems at school. He has been tardy and playing truant. His teachers find it hard to tolerate his challenging behaviour. She is struggling to keep her son from dropping out of school. She added that her son could not get along with his father.

Children look up to their fathers for a sense of commitment. They need to know the importance of education and believe strongly in work ethics. It has been found that teenagers stay out of trouble and remain in school longer when they have a positive relationship with their fathers.

Dr Thomas Lickona in his book, Raising Good Children, pointed out that it is important for a child to develop a sense of identity within his family. He said that teenagers continue to need adults in their lives and the family plays an important role in keeping them morally rooted and knowing who they are.

When a father is available and caring, he shows his sons his nurturing skills in feeding, bathing and changing them just like their mother. By doing so, when his sons grow up, they too will honour this role as a nurturer who is hands-on.

A father who is committed to his role contributes to his daughter’s sense of self-worth. Successful women have often spoken highly of how their fathers inspired them to pursue their dreams. Their fathers have shown them how they can shape and contribute to the world they live in as women. Their fathers had faith in them as individuals who are capable and did not regard them as the weaker sex.

In many cultures today, men and women continue to differ in their roles in the family. Women are responsible for childcare and housework, while men take on more masculine roles. There will be greater happiness when men and women share equal responsibility in raising a family.

Research findings from Western Europe and North America tell us that a father’s anchoring presence in raising children will make them more gender sensitive. It is hoped that in the future, our children will create a gender equitable society, in which men and women share the same respect.

Fathers are creative playmates. They bring a different perspective to the parent-child relationship. They show children different ways of doing things. Fathers tend to let children go the extra mile and cheer them on with great enthusiasm. They are also more relaxed with them and allow their children to take more chances than mothers normally do.

They will indulge in play activities with their children that mothers are not comfortable. They enjoy roughhousing, are more tolerant of mess and more concerned with the fun they can create with their children. This translates to enabling the young learners to take bolder steps in exploration and experimentation. Children with interested fathers tend to show more initiative and self-control.

To all the fathers out there: You are essential to your child’s life. You are the beacon that guides them as they journey on.

“IMAGINE LIFE AS A GAME IN WHICH YOU ARE JUGGLING SOME FIVE
BALLS IN THE AIR.

You name them – Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit – and
you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand
that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls – Family, health, friends, and spirit
are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be
irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered.
They will never be the same.

You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.
How?

· Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.
It is because we are different that each of us is special.

· Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important.
Only you know what is best for you.

· Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart.
Cling to them as they were your life, for without them,
life is meaningless.

· Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in
the past or for the future. By living your life one day at
a time, you live ALL the days of your life.

· Don’t give up when you still have something to give.
Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

· Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect.
It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.

· Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking
chances that we learn how to be brave.

· Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible
to find time.
The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way
to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to
keep love is to give it wings.

· Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only
where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

· Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel
appreciated.

· Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless,
a treasure you can always carry easily.

· Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.

· Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of
the way.

Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, and Today is a
gift: That’s why we call it The Present.”

Now all of that’s impressive in its own right. But what most don’t
know is that BEFORE he reached this level of success, he was a
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And he’s obviously very successful at it too.

So how did he do it?

Read about his personal story about how he turned his life around
and how rakes in the profits trading from home here:

=> http://secretsofmillionaireinvestors.com/index1.htm

To your success,
Adam

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Of course, any project, especially one as challenging as turning
yourself into a self-made millionaire, will go better if you have
someone to guide you through the process, someone who has
personally achieved what you’re striving towards.

Imagine you could have your own personal self-made millionaire
mentor who will share exactly how he did it and who will guide you
through the process?  Do you think this would help – a lot?

I’m sure you do.  But your old, non-millionaire mindset will
immediately ask the kinds of questions that are certain to sabotage
your success:   But aren’t mentors incredibly expensive?   It
depends on how the mentorship works.  Sure, hours of phone support
and personal meetings will probably be out of reach for just about
anybody who would need that kind of help.

But here’s a way that’s much more affordable.  Adam Khoo, a
self-made millionaire by age 26, and now a multi-millionaire and
best-selling author as well as in-demand speaker, has produced an
audio coaching program where he discloses all the secret
ingredients of becoming seriously rich.  And the best thing, he
guides you every step of the way.  He’s by your side with
encouragement and guidance, with motivation, and with very specific
and detailed examples.  Once you listen to his explanations and
work through the workbooks, getting wealthy will suddenly feel a
lot more doable.

How does Adam accomplish this feat?  First of all, he shares how he
himself became a millionaire, starting with his school days, where
he transformed himself from a miserable failure to a top student in
a very short time.  And where he went out to teach others how to do
the same.  And turned that into money!  Adam’s inspiring story and
his enthusiasm will give you a big boost.

Before you begin, you probably wonder if you even had it in you to
become a millionaire.  Surely, those amazing people who have
accomplished that feat have really special gifts, you may think.

You’ll quickly discover that that’s not the case.  Adam assures you
that we all have the same gifts.  It’s just that some of us use
them more skillfully than others.  And in his audio coaching
program, he is going to teach you how you too can transform
yourself into a person who puts his or her gifts to the best
possible use.

Chances are you have read other books about “millionaire secrets”
before and have found yourself utterly frustrated because they were
filled with promises that weren’t fulfilled.  It all sounded good,
but every time you were looking for actual how-to information, the
books came up empty.  This is not the case with Adam’s program.  He
delivers specifics.

Sure, Adam includes plenty of pep talks along with a bit of tough
love, and you’ll need it all.  Why? Because there’s real work
involved in becoming a millionaire.  Meditating on it won’t make it
happen.  Yet the right mindset paired with the right kind of
concerted effort will.  And Adam’s program gives you the tools to
get it right and shows you how to apply them.

What will you get?  The program consists of 12 downloadable audio
lessons that average about 45 to 55 minutes each, with some of them
more than an hour long.  And Adam talks fast, and packs a lot of
information into each one.  You’ll see just how much when you look
at the transcripts that are also included as PDF documents.

The lessons include the following:

* 7 Steps to Financial Freedom
* Developing the Million Dollar Mindset
* How the Rich Manage Cash Flow
* Strategies to Massively Increase your Income
* Managing Money and Controlling Expenses
* Creating Multiple Streams of Income Online
* Investing Like Warren Buffett
* Growing Your Money at Millionaire Returns
* Designing Your Millionaire Road Map

The topics sound very enticing, and unlike a lot of other programs,
Adam delivers.  He really does give you the nitty-gritty how-to for
all of the above.

For example, the two lessons on online income are among the
clearest, fuss-free, and comprehensive guides to internet marketing
I have encountered to date.

And the strategies to massively increase your income are just plain
brilliant as are those in the rest of the program.  Adam tells you
how you can increase your value to your employer exponentially -
and command the salary increases to match.  And that’s just for
starters.  Wish I had known those earlier.  In fact, that’s what I
kept thinking while listening to most of this program.

In his investing lessons, all four of them, Adam provides more
information than even an armful of books ever would.  He teaches
you how to pick stocks, how long to keep them, and so on. It’s very
comprehensive, and you can literally get started after just working
your way through this program.

And while 12 audios and the matching transcripts would provide
plenty of value for your money, especially considering the content,
that’s not all.  You’ll also get bonuses:

You’ll get a manual of more than 200 pages, which is both a
workbook with space for you to fill in as you work yourself through
the process, and a quickie overview over the program, complete with
graphics and tables that you’ll find yourself referring to again
and again.

And then there are 7 spread sheets, which help you with determining
your own net worth, your income statement, making money on the
internet with the internet profit formula, and, yes, pick the right
stocks!  Or tell if you’ve picked the right ones. And when to sell
them too.

In the program itself, Adam covers a huge territory as you can see
from the titles of the lessons above.  He helps you explore your
attitudes about money, and, very importantly, change the ones that
don’t serve you.  If you worry what would happen if you were to
actually make money, you probably won’t make much.  And if you do,
self-fulfilling prophecy goes right to work and helps you live up -
or down – to your expectations.

Adam is a very enthusiastic speaker and a fast talker, which means,
that you may sometimes wish you could rewind.  In fact, the pace of
his presentation style is a bit on the fast side.  I kept wanting
to tell him to slow down.  He also has a Singapore accent for
obvious reasons and coupled with the fast pace it can occasionally .

But what really counts is what he delivers, and he delivers a
terrific blueprint for becoming a self-made millionaire.  All the
info you need is right here.  Just add action, stir, and watch your
net worth grow.

To Your Success,
Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group

By Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni

When you wake up in the morning, do not expect to see the evening live as though today is all that you have. Yesterday has passed with its good and evil, while tomorrow has not yet arrived. Your life’s span is but one day, as if you were born in it and will die at the end of it. With this attitude, you will not be caught between an obsession over the past, with all its anxieties, and the hopes of the future, with all its uncertainty. Live for today: During this day you should pray with a wakeful heart, recite the Qur’an with understanding, and remember Allah with sincerity. In this day you should be balanced in your affairs, satisfied with your allotted portion, concerned with your appearance and health.

Organize the hours of this day, so that you make years out of minutes and months out of seconds. Seek forgiveness from your Lord, remember Him, prepare for the final parting from this world, and live today happily and at peace. Be content with your sustenance, your wife, your children, your work, your house and your station in life.

So hold that which I have given you and be of the grateful. (Qur’an 7: 144)

You must engrave onto your heart one phrase: Today is my only day. If you have eaten warm, fresh bread today, then what do yesterday’s dry, rotten bread and tomorrow’s anticipated bread matter?

If you are truthful with yourself and have a firm, solid resolve, you will undoubtedly convince yourself of the following: Today is my last day to live. When you achieve this attitude, you will profit from every moment of your day, by developing your personality, expanding your abilities, and purifying your deeds. Then you say to yourself:

Today I shall be refined in my speech and will utter neither evil speech nor obscenity. Also, I shall not backbite.

Today I shall organize my house and my office. They will not be disorderly and chaotic, but organized and neat.

Today I will be particular about my bodily cleanliness and appearance. I will be meticulous in my neatness and balanced in my walk, talk, and actions.

Today I will strive to be obedient to my Lord, pray in the best manner possible, do more voluntary acts of righteousness, recite the Qur’an, and read beneficial books. I will plant goodness into my heart and extract from it the roots of evil   such as pride, jealousy, and hypocrisy.

Today I will try to help others to visit the sick, to attend a
funeral, to guide the one who is lost, and to feed the hungry. I will stand side by side with the oppressed and the weak. I will pay respect to the scholar, be merciful to the young, and reverent to the old.

O’ past that has departed and is gone, I will not cry over you. You will not see me remembering you, not even for a moment, because you have traveled away from me never to return.

O’ future, you are in the realm of the unseen, so I will not be obsessed by your dreams. I will not be preoccupied about what is to come because tomorrow is nothing and has not yet been created.

`Today is my only day’ is one of the most important statements in the dictionary of happiness, for those who desire to live life in its fullest splendor and brilliance.